Then spend hours and hours trying to figure out how you can make them like you better.
Above all else, make sure you NEVER make a mistake...and if you do, do not, I said do NOT let anyone else know that you messed up.
If someone criticizes you or points out a fault, wallow in self-pity for days and days and let that criticism inform your view of yourself.
Spend time with people who like you and avoid people who are less drawn to your people-pleasing tactics.
Remember, who you are is what others say you are.
If you follow these principles, you will be well on your way to pleasing all the people in your life.
Yikes. All that may sound crazy, but I'm sure I have done each of those things at least once in my life. For so many years my opinion of myself was directly related to what others thought of me or how I perceived others to think of me. I am still prone to this type of thinking at times, but I do pray that God continues to strip me of my people-pleasing tendencies. I heard a quote on the radio today that made me stop in my tracks: "It is wrong to give anyone the power to make us through their affirmation or break us through their rejection."
I don't know how many times I have allowed myself to be broken through the rejection or criticism of others, even if it was administered with all the love in the world. Rather than taking the comments before God and asking Him how He wants to change me, I simply turn in on myself in self-pity. I want to be so confident in my identity as a beloved child of God that no human being has the power to make me through their affirmation or break me through their rejection.
I must say, though, this people-pleasing girl is most definitely a work in progress.
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